If I would, could you?

Change, that is. It's a measure of our imperfection as people how much we want others be what we want them to be. As well is it a measure of our humanity when we learn to accept others as they are.
This is an apology to those of you I've wronged by expecting things from you that it wasn't in you to give. It's a humbling moment when you realize what a selfish ass you can be when things don't go as you want them to. Emotions can override logic quite easily, especially after a few (or not so few) drinks.
The dynamics of our relations with other people can be as complex or simple as we make them. The trick is finding the balance. The problem is finding the balance. It's easier to dispassionately sit back and analyze social patterns than to apply learned tactics in your own life. It's those pesky emotions again.
So do we change to fit others desires, to make them happy? Do this too much, and you are a doormat. I'm a good example. Or do we expect others to change to fit our desires, to make us happy? Do this and you're an ass. Again, I'm a good example.
It's both, really. We can't expect to live and interact with others and not need to bend to appease them, or need them to bend to appease us. It's never perfect, as we are never perfect. But it's necessary if you want to achieve some small modicum of happiness and peace in this chaotic world.
The only other option would be to excise yourself completely from others and live as a hermit and expect nothing from anyone else and need to change only to suit yourself. A very lonely way to be.
So, again I'm sorry to those of you from whom I've expected to much to serve my needs. And I'm sorry also for the self piteous whining I've made all of you suffer through lately, it's quite embarrassing really.
I'll try to change.
Will you?